Today I want to blog about something very serious, and very sad. If you’re not in the mood for that, I suggest you take your leave now.
While my novel Lucid Dreaming is a sexy dramedy with a lot of levity and romance, the framework of the story is based on the tragedy of sexual abuse against children. I won’t go into plot details, because I don’t want to spoil anything.
Low self-esteem, chronic guilt, depression, difficulties in intimate situations, and yes… even hyper-sexuality and sex addiction are all symptoms adult survivors face everyday. It is likely no amount of love and support will be able to erase these symptoms completely, but the gestures will always be appreciated to those in need.
I myself am very fortunate to never have lived through such a terrible thing, but people close to me have and I see the lasting effects all the time. As an outsider, it can be extremely frustrating to deal with their negatively. I admit, I sometimes have to take a step back for my own sanity. (I am only human, after all) But no matter what– no matter how much I want to give up on these people, I never will. The PTSD is not an excuse to be chronically miserable. It’s a curse to be chronically damaged.
RAINN.org is an organization I have promoted a few times on my social media, and I will continue to do so. Their slogan, “We Believe You”, is so simple, yet so perfect. It’s music to the ears of those who have had their experiences belittled or denied all their lives. To those who have never told anyone of their experiences out of a fear of disbelief or just plain embarrassment. It’s a great resource for people who have been sexually abused at any age, not just in childhood.
The Department of Defense Safe Helpline also just launched a new website and app for survivors of sexual assault. You can download the app at the App Store or on Google Play. Both RAINN and the DoD website offer 24/7 helplines you can call for one on one support.